Sam's Story {the meeting}

The drive to the hospital took 2 hours, but it felt like an eternity.

We were meeting the birth mom at 4:00 and she was going to sign the papers at 5:00.
Not only were we meeting her for the first time, but she didn't choose us either.
The agency did.
She wanted her son go to a couple that was married.
Since we were the couple that had been waiting the longest and we didn't have any birth mom leads, we were chosen.

God knew this all along...

We met the adoption coordinator in the lobby and right before we walked in the hospital room, she asked us to wait in the hallway so she could go in and talk to her.

When she opened the door to go in, I saw a girlfriend sitting on the couch in the room.
These were my thoughts...

"That friend in there is totally trying to talk her out of the adoption!"
"Has the birth mom changed her mind?"
"Will she meet us and think, I don't want these people raising my son!"
"What in the world do we say when we first walk into the room and see her?"

Once again, it felt like we were waiting for an eternity and it was so quiet.
I just wanted to hear laughter.
Why I thought there would be laughter at a time like this...I do not know.

But, there was laughter.

We walked in.
I don't remember what we said, but I handed her flowers and smiled.

So awkward.

Thankfully, the adoption coordinator was really good at filling all of that awkwardness with great questions to help with the conversation.
We learned a little bit about each other over the next 30 minutes or so.

And then we heard the words, "Do you want them to meet the baby now?"
She said yes and the baby was wheeled into the room.

More awkwardness.

How do you respond to seeing the baby who could possibly be your child in front of the woman who gave him life?
I didn't want to get crazy emotional over the baby, but I did want the birth mom to see our excitement over her precious baby.
I was too nervous to cry any way.


She later signed the papers and was leaving that evening to go home.
She wanted to see us again, so we went back to her room.
She was standing in front of the window holding him.
The way she was looking at Sam was one of the sweetest things I've ever seen.
I hope I don't ever forget the look on her face.

Then she walked over to me and placed him in my arms.
I hugged her and said, "thank you."
That's when the tears started for all of us.
She gathered her things and as she was walking out the door, I said, "I love you and I don't really even know you."
She looked at me, smiled and walked out the door.



  1. So precious. I am so glad you are writing this down.

  2. Oh my. I'm crying. What a beautiful evening to remember forever. I felt like I was back in Florida meeting John's bio mom. And the one thing I want to remember....the way she looked at John when she held him. I am sooo happy to hear that Sam is loved just the same by his birthmom. We are so blessed. :)

  3. wow. Thank you for sharing that with us. so personal and touching.

  4. WOW. I'm praying for her right now and I don't have a clue who she is!! What an amazing woman! God is AWESOME! Thank you for sharing!! Sam will love knowing this.

  5. What an amazing, courageous woman! Thanks for sharing your story!

  6. that was amazingly beautiful. your new story begins!! i can't wait to hear the rest!

  7. Oh Abby. Amazing!!!! Tears, goose bumps! All of it. So happy for you!

  8. i am reading this and crying right now. just thought i would let you know. you are such a wonderful mama.

  9. Abby, I found your blog as I was searching on Pinterest for smoothie recipes, of all things. :-) My husband & I have 2 adopted children; the youngest is an African American boy who was born on 10/29/12; he is close to your Sam's age. Your picture of Sam on the side of your blog is what caught my eye, and I started reading your adoption stories. This post really touched me, & I just wanted you to know that I enjoyed it! Thank you for sharing your story!
    ~Laura G.

  10. I found your blog searching for carrot smoothies and ended up here reading this and crying! What a beautiful story :)



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